Who on earth stops to think about what their sex life will be like after they get married? I didn't. Well, not much beyond "Oooh I can have as much sex as I like!"The reality though, is that life can intervene. Work stress, financial stress and just plain old familiarity can easily tarnish your sex life. Married sex can be fantastic, but it does take a little planning and sometimes a bit of effort. The thing is, it isn't really all that difficult.
So, to avoid getting into a sexual rut, how about making yourself some sex vows, and putting these promises at the top of your daily to-do list.
1. I vow to flirt with my husband
Being all cozy and cuddly and stay-at-home is fine and good, but it needs to be balanced with a lot of flirty moments. And the thing is, it is so easy to flirt. Text saucy messages to your man, even when he's sitting right near you at a dinner party. Kiss in taxis, touch him playfully when you walk past him as he lolls in front of the TV. Make eye contact, laugh at his jokes..even the old stale ones. You'd have done it before you got married so why stop? The idea is, keep the element of fun and surprise alive.
2. I vow to keep myself sexy
Whilst it's unnecessary to keep up that pre-wedding level of grooming, it is important to look after yourself and stay as sexy as you can. Little things count. Keeping your feet in tip-top condition, your bikini line neat, your eyebrows plucked, your hair styled. When you feel good, you also feel sexy. And when you feel sexy, you want sex.
3. I vow to pleasure myself
Marriage and masturbation get along very well. If you did it before you got married, then keep right on. People who 'sort themselves out' from time to time, can actually have better orgasms during sex. Additionally, if you know your own body well, you're better able to communicate what you want, to your husband. And, even better, those kinky toys you got at your hen night can be used with your husband.
4. I vow to make time for sex
It can be easy to get caught up in work obligations, hobbies, sport and home chores. Often, you may just be too tired or too busy to even think about sex. Well hey! Why not make a date with your husband once a week. Even if you just stay at home and watch a movie together, have a great dinner, or a few drinks and a laugh....whatever you do, make sure he knows that sex is on the agenda.
5. I vow to shake up the routine
After marriage it's quite normal to fall into a pattern in bed. One of you will usually make the first move. If it's always you, then simply talk about it and explain that you'd like to be the seduced and not the seducer. Or, if you never make the first move, then change that habit. Next time you feel aroused, pounce on him! Just be sure it's not during the Football Final!
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