The holiday season is the first chance that engaged couples have to test out their ability to become part of someone else's family. This weekend, many of you will juggle brunch at one house and dinner at another; you may also have an engagement party or two in there, or a visit to more family who are close but not coming for dinner. This is your chance to get to know your beloved's family, and to incorporate him into your family.

But it can be hard to decide how that split should work. Do you go to YOUR parents or to HIS parents, or to BOTH? If one set of parents live close to you (and thus most likely see the two of you often) are you obligated to travel to the OTHER set of parents (who see you less often) for the holiday? What if neither family lives near you? How do you divide the holidays then?

As you plan your wedding, you are planning a lifetime as a member of someone else' s family group; holidays are a good time to start incorporating yourself into the family and their traditions. But the holidays can also become a hassle when you try to do too much, or to satisfy everyone.

I will be driving nine hours this Thanksgiving, with my husband and our children and my in-laws, to have Thanksgiving dinner with my sister-in-law and her family. It was an easy choice, but then again, my husband and I have been married for over a decade, and together longer than that. But I am curious about what you all will be doing this weekend -- where will YOU eat your turkey?