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Feb 6th 2008 @ 8:14PM
Lauren said...
I was hoping this question would come up somewhere. I'm in the same kind of situation right now except for the fact that ours is for more financial reasons than for a deadline to something. To be married we need a house and a house costs money which we don't have at the moment. And when we do have the money for the house, it will be spent on the House not on a big elaborate ceremony. Both our families are vying for us to have the wedding in one of their back yards: His mother in Chicago or my mother in Alabama, and considering we're in Arizona, neither is too appealing when calculating in the cost of travel to either location. And we're pretty eager to be married and get it over with rather than keep our engagement going longer than it has to considering we're already living together.
So what I've tried to suggest to him is that we have a private, legal ceremony on our own when we have our house to live in, and then we can save up our money to have the ceremony to let the families feel involved. (Because neither side of our families are willing to offer a solitary red cent towards the cost of the wedding. My mother actually complained about us getting engaged at all because traditionally the bride's family pays for the wedding.) He tends to counter with "Let's just elope and avoid it altogether." Not a bad idea, but I know our family would hold it over our heads forever about how we don't care about them so we didn't invite them to the ceremony. Oi.
So, yeah... I personally don't have a problem with the after-the-fact ceremony. It seems logical to me in my current state of mind, as far as stressful relations with our families and lack of savings are concerned.
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