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It can be difficult to find ways to include all the people you hold near and dear in your wedding, especially when those people are children. Whereas adult attendants get antsy about how they look in the dress you picked out as they stand in front of all your friends and family, kids are totally psyched to have all eyes on them. But what will they be doing?

The common solution is to include the wee ones in your life as flower girls and ring bearers, but what is the appropriate age for these designations? Is a three-year-old mature enough to understand the job and cooperate? Would a ten-year-old be offended that you'd even ask her to play such a kiddie role? At what age should a girl be promoted from flower girl to junior bridesmaid?

We suggest speaking to the parents first when you decide to include children in the wedding party. The parents can give you an idea of where the child will best fit in, and whether or not it's a good idea to ask. Maybe a two-year-old won't do the flower girl job exactly by the book, but who says she won't be an adorable part of your wedding? It all depends on what you want.