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Jun 10th 2008 @ 1:43PM
Ilona Peltz said...
I'm with Sarah on this one. If there are issues in your marriage, there are WAY safer ways to resolve them. This book is only going to encourage people (who already want to) to cheat, because they can rationalize their behaviour by saying it's somehow 'good' for the marriage. I don't like it.
However, I'm a realist. Monogamy, down through DECADES, is tough. Affairs happen. So then what?
I agree with her that the biggest harm comes when the affair is discovered. Having been on the receiving end of such a confesson (in my first, that'd be *former* marriage), and having spoken to others, male and female, who've received them, our experience is pretty nearly universal: the confession was done for the wanderer's benefit.
It wasn't concern for the relationship that drove them to confess: they had a guilty conscience and wanted to share the misery. Many wanted the injured party's forgiveness, so they could feel better. The irony of hurting your partner so they can ease your discomfort is pretty profound. And, in the end, selfish.
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