How not to Bridezilla
Filed under: Relationships, Bridal Bloopers, Bridezilla
If you're convinced your wedding is Your Day, and everyone participating in it, from wedding party through parents to guests are there only as an audience ... well, you ARE a Bridezilla, and probably proud of it. You may skip this post.If, however, you're generally a regular human being, but you're wondering if you're getting just a little ... intense ... about this whole venture, read on. It's easy, in the hectic throes of wedding planning, to get a little carried away. When you see your bridesmaids exchanging glances you're not supposed to see, you'll want to go through this handy checklist, and make the changes necessary.
1. Are you determined that if the day isn't perfect, it will be a failure? Ease up. There's a long, long stretch of reality between "Perfection" and "Failure." Perfection isn't all it's cracked up to be, anyway. A few quirks and idiosyncrasies, even the odd complete goof-up, add a little humanity to the day. And to you!
2. Are you afraid to delegate? If you think that you, personally, have to be in total charge of every single detail, you are setting yourself up for failure (see above), conflict (with wedding party and family) and nervous breakdown (when you realize that you can't cover every single base all by yourself).
3. Is every moment between now and The Big Day booked with wedding stuff? If you can't manage a little time out to do non-wedding stuff with your fiancé, you won't have a relationship left by the time the wedding rolls around! If you don't also take a little time out for yourself, you'll walk down the aisle only to collapse at the altar. Remember, you have a life beyond the wedding. You don't? Well, you should!
4. Can you accept offers of assistance? This is a variation of point two, above. This wedding is not just about you, or even the two of you. There are friends and two families involved. Letting them participate not only takes stress off you, but can help build relationships. Assuming, that is, you've taken point one into account, and are willing to accept less than perfection from your helpers.
5. Can you see beyond the wedding? If you lose sight of the relationship that will follow the wedding, your marriage won't survive much beyond the honeymoon. This wedding is about you and your fiancé, and the rest of your lives, together.
Keep that in mind, and you'll be able to keep the rest in perspective!
2. Are you afraid to delegate? If you think that you, personally, have to be in total charge of every single detail, you are setting yourself up for failure (see above), conflict (with wedding party and family) and nervous breakdown (when you realize that you can't cover every single base all by yourself).
3. Is every moment between now and The Big Day booked with wedding stuff? If you can't manage a little time out to do non-wedding stuff with your fiancé, you won't have a relationship left by the time the wedding rolls around! If you don't also take a little time out for yourself, you'll walk down the aisle only to collapse at the altar. Remember, you have a life beyond the wedding. You don't? Well, you should!
4. Can you accept offers of assistance? This is a variation of point two, above. This wedding is not just about you, or even the two of you. There are friends and two families involved. Letting them participate not only takes stress off you, but can help build relationships. Assuming, that is, you've taken point one into account, and are willing to accept less than perfection from your helpers.
5. Can you see beyond the wedding? If you lose sight of the relationship that will follow the wedding, your marriage won't survive much beyond the honeymoon. This wedding is about you and your fiancé, and the rest of your lives, together.
Keep that in mind, and you'll be able to keep the rest in perspective!
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