Writing your own vows probably sounded like a great idea until it was time to actually do it. Thinking of something creative, personal, and appropriate to recite in front of everyone you know can be daunting. Don't let writer's block get you down, though. Once you get going, you only have to write a few sentences. Here goes...- Start with an outline. We like this format: begin with how great your fiance is, then say something about why you're perfect for each other, and wrap it up with a promise for the future.
- Remember to be yourself. You are not handing this in for a grade. You don't need to use a thesaurus to find the most sophisticated words. If you don't use your normal tone and vocabulary, it will sound fake, and no one wants fake wedding vows.
- Keep it short. Anything longer than 60 seconds will get awkward. If you have more to say, put it in your toast for the rehearsal dinner or reception.
Song and movie quotes are fine, but avoid clichés. Instead of something everyone hears all the time, pick a line that's special just to you -- maybe a line from your first date movie, or your song -- something that will make sense to everyone, but will have special meaning to the two of you.
Finally, end with your promises. Sure, you vow to love each other always, but these should be extra personal, too. What promises can you make about your lives together -- now, five years from now, and fifty years down the road? Think about what being married to this person means to you. What are you most excited about? You can use this part of your vows to show that you don't take the little things for granted.
If you're still having trouble, consider working together, and using the same vows. You might find it easier if you help each other -- just because you're not married yet doesn't mean you can't start working as a team now!
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