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Couple plans to pay for wedding by recycling

Kristen Seymour — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:00:00 EST

What's the craziest thing you did to save or raise money for your wedding? Did you stop buying your daily $4 latte? Go out to eat a little bit less? How about turning in your bottles and cans to be recycled for a little extra cash?

Massachusetts couple Michael Ramos and Suzanne Raposo are taking the latter suggestion to an extreme. Their dream wedding will cost them around $30,000 next year, and they're hoping to pay for a good portion of that with money they've earned by recycling pop cans (in Massachusetts, you earn five cents for each one).

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Father of the bride: More than just a wallet

Ilona Peltz — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 14:01:00 EST

Filed under: Relationships, Budget Advice

Let's face it: a lot of men are on the outside of the wedding planning. Even today, a wedding is the largely bride's show, with her bridesmaids and her mother as her supporting players and the groom a handsome accessory. A generation ago, when her father was getting married, this was likely even more the case. So what does dad remember of the planning? Probably not a whole lot.

Yet many brides (though certainly not all) will be expecting dad to ante up considerable chunks of money for her Big Day. So where are the books, magazines, and general all-round support for dad?

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Budget 201: What the guests spend

Ilona Peltz — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 13:00:00 EST

Filed under: Budget Advice

As you plan your wedding, and particularly when you plan your reception, your guests can start to feel more like financial obligations than friends-and-family. How many plates can you afford, how much free alcohol can you provide, will you go for the larger venue (at greater cost) or trim the guest list and take the less-expensive option?

Ka-ching! And then, after all that trouble, they're telling you they can't afford to come?? It can feel like a real slap in the face. In fact, attending a wedding can be an expensive proposition. One study in the UK found that the average guest spends about £300 (roughly $600) on food, drink, accommodation, clothes, and gift. Which is a chunk of change, you have to admit. Slightly under a third of this total is the gift.

And for those of you who weren't sure about inviting all your parents' friends? People over 50 tend to spend almost double the average. Not that we'd encourage you to judge your guests' value by the depth of their wallets. That would be crass.

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Ask AisleDash: Paying for parking at the venue

Meg Massie — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 12:00:00 EST

Filed under: Negotiating Speed Bumps, Invitations, Budget Advice, Etiquette

Dear AisleDash,

I just found out that our reception venue charges for parking. It's only a few bucks per car, but I had no idea when I booked the place! Am I supposed to pay for all my guests to park? If not, how do I tell them? What's the etiquette here?

~Urban Bride

Dear Urban,

You do not necessarily have to pay for all of your guests to park, but it would be a very nice thing for you to do. You do have to tell them in advance, so that they're not "hit with surprise charges," as they say. The best way for you to do this is to include an insert with your invitations explaining the charge for parking, and also mapping the area to point out the nearest free parking.

If your invitations have already gone out, it seems to me that you will have to just pay for everyone's parking at this point, because there is no proper way to spring this on guests now. Many of them won't bring cash with them to your ceremony and will be in a bind when they get to your reception venue if there is a charge they aren't prepared for.

Alternatively, have you considered hiring a wedding shuttle? If everyone is staying in the same hotel, a shuttle to the ceremony and reception sites and back can be a very nice way to tackle this problem. With a shuttle available, if people still choose to drive themselves, then the burden of parking fees is on them, not you.

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And the bridesmaid title goes to...the highest bidder

Caroline Humphreys — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 12:00:00 EST

Filed under: Budget Advice

Is there no end to what can be auctioned? Kelly Gray, a Virginia bride, is auctioning off the opportunity to be one of her bridesmaids. Why would somebody do this? To help offset some of the wedding costs. Gray and her fiancé together make barely enough to get by supporting a 1-year-old baby. They really do not have the means to save up for a wedding and are looking for every possible way to stretch a dollar. With everything under the sun already up for auction on eBay, Gray thought why not a bridesmaid? As of June 24th, the bid was up to $1625.00.

Update: As of 10:45 EST, the bid was up to $4250.00 with eight hours left for the auction.

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My Small Wedding: Family spread far and wide

Meg Massie — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 13:00:00 EST

Filed under: Budget Advice, Ceremonies, Green Weddings, Eloping

My family is from Virginia. His is from Oregon. Both of our families are huge. Getting everyone together for a wedding would have been a huge expense for everyone involved. At least half of our potential guest list would be facing a cross country trip, and then we'd be facing the bill to host them all. Oof.

So we eloped.

The cost of traveling is a huge concern these days, and you should consider how much you're asking of people when you invite them to a wedding hundreds of miles from home. If your guests share my family's mentality that weddings are mandatory, then you might actually be doing them a favor by trimming the guest list. You don't have to elope, but keeping a wedding small and intimate will save money across the board, not to mention the environmental impact of all that travel.

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A wedding at home could blow your budget

Caroline Humphreys — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 13:00:00 EST

Filed under: Budget Advice

Thinking of saving money by having a relatively small wedding at home? Don't overlook the potential hidden costs of home weddings. First, when you hold your wedding and reception in a more public venue, they probably already have the tables and chairs you need for your guests. At home, you will need to factor in the rental price of these items.

Second, event professionals say that most homes don't have enough bathrooms to keep guest traffic flowing the way it needs to, and there's only so much toilet paper a residential sewage system can take in a short amount of time. To avoid any sticky situations, many professionals recommend renting extra toilets. Plan enough money for nice ones so your guests don't have to cram into the typical tiny and stinky ones.

Finally, if the wedding will be outside, there are additional costs you may have. If there's any chance for rain, plan on tent rental expenses, including any necessary permits. Also, weddings take a heavy toll on landscaping, particularly lawns where tents block the sunlight for several days and the weight of all those guests compacts the ground, injuring and even killing the lawn. Make sure the homeowner knows of this potential outcome and plan on the cost of aerating the ground, adding extra mulch around trees to protect them, and replacing any lost greenery after the event.

Once people know the surprising costs of a home wedding, many choose to look for another location. But if a home setting is the one you're dreaming of, plan ahead for these costs.

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Let the destination trim your guest list

Jennifer Canzoneri — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 13:00:00 EST

Filed under: Destination Ceremonies, Negotiating Speed Bumps, Relationships, Invitations, Budget Advice, Etiquette, Receptions, Ceremonies

One of the greatest stresses for any bride and groom is the matter of the guest list -- who to invite, who to leave off and who to constantly bump heads over. Capping the guest list is a wise financial choice as the headcount dictates the cost of many things. Just a few examples: most venues charge you for dinner (either sit-down or buffet) by the headcount, the cake is quoted to you by the headcount, the favors, the save-the-date cards and the invitations are all ordered with the headcount in mind. If you keep your guest list to a set amount, the costs will be cut across the board. It makes logical sense, but that doesn't make it any easier.

You want to invite everyone in your mutual address books, and sometimes just the families alone can add up to 50+ people. How do you make the hard decisions over who to include and who to, well, exclude?

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Inspiration board: White wedding

Roxanna Sarmiento — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 17:00:00 EST

Filed under: Fashion, Cakes and Catering, Invitations, Budget Advice, Flowers, Favors, Bridal Beauty, Theme weddings, Inspiration Boards

A white wedding can be so many things - ethereal and innocent or crisp and oh-so-chic - it's a wedding theme beloved by both traditionalists and edgy modernists because it can be anything you want it to be.

Of course, most weddings have at least one major player dressed all in white: The bride! From the white dress to her dazzling smile, a bride in white is a very special and lovely sight. Imagine the impact of an all-white event!

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Organize your wedding pictures and videos with Oosah

Becky Scott — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 16:00:00 EST

Filed under: Budget Advice, Do-It-Yourself, Keeping the Memory, Videos

The web is a wonderland for technology geeks. You can find all kinds of things that can help you organize your wedding - many for free! And when you're on a tight budget, free is very good.

As you participate in various wedding-related functions, you could build up a number of photos, videos, and even audio all over the web. Your friend posted a bit of the rehearsal dinner on YouTube, while your Maid of Honor tossed up a few pics on her Facebook account. And your future brother-in-law decided Flickr was a good place to share his photos with you.

How do you collect and organize them all? Try Oosah, a free service designed to help you create a place to gather your wedding-related photos, audio, and video - all in one place.

Looking at bridesmaid dresses and want to share them with your wedding party? Take pics of the dresses and then share an Oosah photo album with them.

You can also create a slideshow with your wedding photos and then forward it to your friends and family. You can also post it to your blog or Facebook account.

There are a lot of options with Oosah. You get 2GB of storage with your free account, so there's plenty of room for your stuff. So if you've been looking for a way to organize all of your wedding-related media, go check them out. This is one wedding extra that won't break your budget!

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Demystifying cake costs

Caroline Humphreys — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 13:00:00 EST

Filed under: Cakes and Catering, Budget Advice

If, like most brides, you're on a budget for your wedding, it will help to understand how cakes are priced, because the kind of cake you choose can dramatically affect its cost. Overall, the more work involved in making the cake, the higher the price. Let's start with the cake itself. The easiest kind of cake to make and work with is a kind of a sponge cake. It comes in a few basic flavors (think vanilla, chocolate, carrot...) and is the most inexpensive. On the other end of the spectrum is cheesecake. More goes into making this decadent delight, so up goes the price. Add-ins like nuts and fruits will also drive prices upward. Moving to the top of the cake, frostings also vary in price, ease of decorating, and taste, with your basic buttercream being the most taste for the money. Finally, the shape of your cake will also impact price. A three-tier cake is considered the standard wedding cake. Add more layers and you up the difficulty and the cost. Also, choosing a shape other than the basic round requires a special cake pan and will raise costs accordingly. Talk honestly with the cake designer about options within your budget. If you like the look of a particular cake, perhaps you can get something similar for less by changing the shape or kind of cake. With a few compromises, you can have a gorgeous cake and eat it, too.

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Two more airlines to charge for checked bags

Meg Massie — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 09:30:00 EST

Filed under: Honeymoons, Destination Ceremonies, Budget Advice

Following American Airlines' lead, US Air and United Airlines have announced new fees to check luggage. Each of the airlines will charge $15 for the first checked bag. Most airlines have already instituted $25 fees for the second bag, and as of July 1, Southwest will be the only airline to allow two checked bags for free.

Airline industry experts expect to see more charges in the future as airlines struggle to keep up with rising fuel costs. In addition to the baggage fees, US Air will begin charging for all beverages served on its planes: $2 for all non-alcoholic drinks, and $7 for alcohol, which is up from $5.

As you prepare your wedding travel budget, be sure to figure in these extra fees. Pack as lightly as possible, bring some extra cash to cover any unexpected charges, and bring your own snacks.

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Five ways to help pad your wedding party's wallets!

Jennifer Canzoneri — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 18:00:00 EST

Filed under: Negotiating Speed Bumps, Relationships, Budget Advice, Keeping the Memory, Etiquette, Wedding party

It's absolutely a privilege and an honor to stand beside a close friend or family member on their wedding day, to support them through their engagement and to be a special part of the beginning of their marriage, but it can also be a pretty expensive role to take on. According to this article -- found on cnn.com on June 9 -- it can cost upwards of $1000 to be a bridesmaid or maid-/matron-of-honor. And some women just don't have that kind of money even if the role means a great deal to them. If you're a soon-to-be bride, here are a handful of ways to ease the financial responsibilities of your bridal party, so they can enjoy your day just as much as you without worrying if they'll go into debt doing so.

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How to get your wedding for free

Wendy Davidson — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 16:00:00 EST

Filed under: Negotiating Speed Bumps, Budget Advice, Do-It-Yourself

How do you have the wedding of your dreams and pay almost nothing towards it? Is it possible?

A British couple who got engaged in 2005, Gemma Johnson, a part-time catering assistant, and Dan, Scott a plumber and part-time firefighter, did exactly that. Like most couples they wanted a fabulous wedding but they refused to pay for the wedding on credit. The last thing they wanted was to face a pile of debt after their wedding day.

It was Gemma's Mum who came up with the solution. A bartered wedding. Instead of paying for what they wanted, the couple bartered their work skills. So, rather than shelling out £600 pounds for the church, they negotiated with the vicar and Dan installed new spotlights in the church's nave in lieu of payment. It cost him only £200 for the scaffolding. A good saving of £400.

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Will you be my bridesmaid? Here's a gas card

Meg Massie — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:30:00 EST

Filed under: Budget Advice, Gifts and Registries, Wedding party

Many brides present their bridesmaids with a gift when they ask them to join the wedding party. Not usually a big gift, sometimes just a thanks-for-being-a-great-friend card is all it takes. But we have a suggestion for a new gift for this occasion: gas cards.

When you ask someone to be a bridesmaid, you're not just asking her to stand at the front during the ceremony; most bridesmaids are involved in planning the wedding with you, running around shopping and going to dress fittings and coming over to help you stuff envelopes. You're asking her to do a lot of driving, and with the price of gas relentlessly climbing, you're asking her to shell out a lot of money.

A gas card may not be very wedding-y, but we think it's a nice way to subsidize your bridesmaids so they can afford to be involved. All major gas stations sell gift cards; pick one that's convenient to all the bridesmaids and load it up.

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A signature cocktail for your white wedding

Roxanna Sarmiento — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 16:30:00 EST

Filed under: Cakes and Catering, Budget Advice, Do-It-Yourself, Theme weddings

One way to enhance your color scheme is to offer a signature cocktail in your chosen color - and when your wedding is all-white you've got plenty of elegant and delicious options at your disposal. We had a difficult time narrowing the choices for you, but we do believe we've found a winner!

This Mint Bailey's White Chocolate Martini by Garnish Bar is a yummy libation for your fall or winter all-white affair. We'd omit the chocolate swirl if you're really strict about the all-white scheme, but we hardly think your guests will mind - especially once they've had a taste.

The recipe is after the jump - share it with your bartender or you make it yourself for the rehearsal dinner. Don't forget to check out Garnish Bar for more delicious drink recipes.

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The best wedding invitations on the Web

Jennifer Canzoneri — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 16:00:00 EST

Filed under: Negotiating Speed Bumps, Invitations, Budget Advice

When you're planning a wedding, there's obviously a lot of cost to consider -- the cost of flowers, a dress, food and, of course, invitations. You want the most bang for your buck and you'd love if you could trust an online site to deliver great invitations at a reasonable cost, as well, right? Well, here are a handful of online invitation sites that offer a wide selection at reasonable prices. You can pick up your save-the-date cards, your bridal shower invites, your bridesmaid luncheon invitations and the actual wedding invitations you love and deserve, all in the same easy-to-navigate, one-stop spot. You deserve to enjoy the wedding planning as much as the wedding itself. Being able to track down the best invitation Web sites will save you time (and money!).

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Finding a diamond that really sparkles

Meg Massie — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 10:30:00 EST

Filed under: Rings, Budget Advice, Engagement

A friend of mine called the other day to ask for help finding a diamond for his girlfriend. He's a law student at a competitive school -- the boy knows how to do research -- but he wanted to ask me about any secrets of the trade I could pass on. So I asked him what he was looking for in a diamond.

"She has one request. It has to SPARKLE!" Simple enough. You don't need piles of appraisal documents to know if a diamond sparkles -- you can tell by looking at it, right? You'd think...

Actually, how a diamond twinkles in a jewelry display case can be very different from how it looks in natural light, and most jewelry store sales clerks don't even know about the characteristic that could have the most affect on a diamond's sparkle: fluorescence.

Gallery: Diamond Facts

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Hand to mouth to pocketbook: The rising cost of reception food

Caroline Humphreys — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 13:00:00 EST

Filed under: Cakes and Catering, Budget Advice

These days, budgets are being squeezed from all angles, and now catering prices are going up due to rising gas and food costs. We all know gas prices are on the rise and this drives up costs for caterers (most food products are transported multiple times before they end up on the buffet table). Additionally, the price of some food staples like rice, flour and grains is going up. Many caterers are now passing these costs along to customers.

But with the wedding industry already known for high prices, what can you do to protect your budget? First of all, read the fine print on contracts before you sign them. Many contracts say "prices subject to change." Try to lock in a rate or have the contract amended with a limit to how much those prices can change. Second, choose in-season food and flowers for best prices. When items have to be imported from other places, costs go up. Third, consider scaling back (choose a buffet over sit-down service, scale back on alcohol or choose less expensive menu items, or even choose a time of day when you can offer snacks instead of a full meal). Finally, always negotiate. Your vendors have competitors and a reputation to protect, and you can use this to your advantage. Industry experts see red flags when a caterer is completely unwilling to make at least some compromises.

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Budget weddings: Flowers on the cheap

Becky Scott — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 20:01:00 EST

Filed under: Budget Advice, Flowers

As the economic crunch continues to hit us all, it's natural that brides (and grooms) will look for ways to stretch a wedding budget. And who can blame them? Gas will probably approach $5/gallon before the end of summer. And as gas costs rise, so does everything else. What's a bride to do?

Think about doing some of your flowers yourself. When my husband I got married, I went by Costco and got a couple of dozen roses in two colors. And then I arranged a small bouquet myself.

So how can you make your bouquet? Try something simple:

1) Trim the roses and bunch them together. If you're using two colors, alternate them throughout in a pattern that's pleasing to you.
2) Add some of the greenery that usually accompanies the flowers, putting it around the outside of the flowers. You don't need to use all of it, just enough to add some additional color.
3) Did your flowers come with babies breath? Stick bits of it here and there to accent the arrangement.
4) Secure the bouquet with string, or floral wire if you have it.
5) Now cover the flower stems with a bit of florist's tape and then wrap with some pretty ribbon.

It isn't that hard, nor is it expensive. Flowers from a place like Costco can be of a decent quality. And the price is definitely right - you can spend well under $50 for a nice bouquet.

Flowers are beautiful, but you don't need to buy a lot of expensive arrangements for your wedding, especially when on a tight budget. And in these times, saving money is going to be important to all of us.

Image: SimonShaw (creative commons license)

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